There is no way to fully prepare for an unexpected death,
but we can take steps to ensure that we have fewer regrets.
The unexpected death of loved one – whether as a result of an accident, suicide, or medical issue can leave family and friends with an overwhelming grief that is difficult to heal. Sometimes the intense grief is simply caused by the loss of the loved one being physically present. But sometimes grief can be exacerbated by a sense of regret for things said or not said or actions taken or not taken in regard to the relationship with the deceased loved one.
Relationships are so multifaceted, that some people lump all relationships into the “hard” category. I disagree. I think relationships are complex and multifaceted to pique our interest, as there are so many other things vying for our attention. As a result of this complexity, we have myriad choices to make on a regular basis in regard to how we interact with the people in our lives.
Here are a couple examples of choices that we all commonly face:
- Choosing to be too busy or choosing to spend time with a parent, grandparent, or friend are alternatives that result in different outcomes.
- Choosing to hold a grudge for a real or perceived slight or choosing to confront, forgive, and/or forget said slight are decisions that provide different results.
I could enumerate a long list of choices that we all face regularly in our relationships that exemplify this theme that with each decision you also receive outcomes, results, consequences, or other side effects associated with your decision. But I don’t want to focus on the examples. I want to focus on encouraging you (and me) to make intentional choices. The alternatives are irrelevant. Whether you have one choice or a long list of alternatives, you should actively and purposefully be making decisions regarding those choices.
Live Each Day Consciously
Act with Purpose
Keep Relationships “Current”
- …visiting the elderly person with whom you feel you still have unfinished business or just because you care about him/her and appreciate the wisdom you receive through conversation.
- …communicating your relationship needs and listening to the needs of others.
- …working through disagreements with people who are worthy of a continued relationship.
- …communicating and demonstrating your love regularly.
- …so much more…
The point is to live purposefully so you have no regrets when an incarnated relationship is severed by death. Sometimes we have warning and time to prepare for a loved one’s death. But sometimes death takes us by surprise and we have little or no time to ‘become current’ in a relationship before the incarnation is over. Although the soul relationship continues after one soul’s incarnation is over, the relationship changes. There is no replacement for the relationship of two incarnated souls living on the Earthly plane.