From one of Kent’s meditations with Spirit…
Spirit: Previously, I mentioned “positive” and “negative” and that these were words that we should look at within ourselves. On the one hand, all energy has a positive and a negative polarity. So when we are talking about charge we are talking about opposites—positive and negative. This allows energy to flow.
However, in the English language, judgement is attached to the words positive and negative. Something is positive or seen as good, or something is negative and seen as bad. In this sense, what I want to discuss a little bit more is the fact that these judgements are a way our ego copes with what happens to us in the world. “Is this something good? Should I be happy about it?” Or, “Is this something bad? Should I be wary of it?” This is a protective mechanism and is an effective survival technique.
However, when it comes to processing emotions, this can be very detrimental.
Let me explain.
Last time we were talking about emotions and assigning reactions to what words mean to you. When you apply a judgement to a situation it adds energy to your reaction. This can intensify that emotion and build a cycle that you perhaps do not want to enter.
What we like you to be cognizant of is when you are using these judgements of “good” or “bad” and labeling your emotions thusly for reactions to things that happen to you. Instead, we would prefer you see everything through a lens of lessons to be learned. “Is that lesson good or bad?” Well, that is a judgement now isn’t it? A lesson is neither good nor bad. It simply depends on how you perceive and go about learning your lesson.
If somebody cuts you off in traffic and you get angry, is that lesson good or bad? Well you could say, “It is bad. It made me angry.” You could also look at it and say, “It is good because I caught myself and instead of yelling out or acting out on my anger, I let it go.”
Instead of putting the judgement of good or bad on the reaction simply see it as a lesson. The person cut you off in traffic and you get angry, that doesn’t mean that it is bad, that is simply your reaction. Ask yourself, “Is this how I want to react to these situations?” If the answer is “no”—(Which I would suggest your answer should be “no” because why would you want to give that kind of power or energy to something that you can’t control?)—then remove the worry about whether something is good or bad and see it for what it is.
This will assist in helping you to reprogram your reactions to things that happen in your life. This is what we are asking.