Soul Contracts
People come into our lives for different reasons and different durations. You may have a soul contract with another soul, binding your soul to that other soul for a purpose envisioned by the souls before incarnation. In fact, you probably have a lot of soul contracts—some contracts lengthy and detailed, other contracts may just be minor bit parts, and other souls may just pass through your life as “extras” in the movie of your life without a specific contract to fulfill.
Codependency
Some of the contracts written between two souls before incarnation may become too difficult for an incarnated soul to bring to fruition. A friend of mine recently shared how she had decided at mid-life to destroy the contract she had with her mother’s soul. Her mother had been a very controlling, mentally ill woman for all of my friend’s life. Her mental illness caused her to be the center of the family at all times due to her high level need for care. My friend decided enough was enough and called forward the soul contract and destroyed it. It was a very liberating experience for her. Without the additional burden of trying to support another soul, my friend has been able to heal some of her own issues.
Poorly Written Contracts
Most of us don’t have monumentally dysfunctional and debilitating soul contracts with others. But even if it’s not detrimental, it may be a poorly written contract, or the execution of the contract by you or the other person may not be in line with the life you have chosen to live or the human embodiment of your life’s purpose.
Contract Negotiation
Many people feel that soul contracts are in effect written in stone and therefore you must comply. I disagree. I feel that soul contracts, since they are written between souls vs. the human incarnations of souls, can sometimes be unpleasant. Your soul may “think” it’s a great idea for you to experience compassion, but the experience presented before your human incarnation may be too painful for you, so you may make another choice.
Free Will
I don’t believe that we’re meant to suffer unnecessarily—even when faced with difficult situations. But sometimes that involves removing ourselves from the dysfunction of others—whether we have a lengthy soul contract with them or they are just an extra that is mucking up their life and by extension yours. Sometimes this impacts your soul contract—maybe your soul will try to learn that lesson in a future lifetime—but other times, it just removes unpleasantness from your current lifetime with no other ramifications. Regardless of which scenario rings true, as humans we have free will. Our soul is guiding us, but is not singly in control of our human experience. It’s a joint effort.